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Getting married for the second time?
Or maybe you're marrying someone who has already been married before? Here are a
few tips...
Don't Ask -
Don’t
ask about the details of his first wedding… and if you were married before –
don’t bring up what you did at your first wedding. Just concentrate on
planning the wedding the way you want it to be.
Big Versus Small -
What
about if he’s been married before - and you want a large, traditional wedding
and he wants something much smaller and informal. This can happen with couples
that aren’t even dealing with a previous marriage. The only answer here is
COMPROMISE.
If your groom-to-be has been married before, then
he should allow you the opportunity to have the wedding that you’ve always
dreamed of. On the other hand, you still need to compromise too. If your fiancé
agrees to the church ceremony for 200 guests, then, you should let him choose
the reception location.
Remember, choose your battles carefully. You
can’t win on every point, so choose which things are the most important to
you.
What to Wear? -
No
matter whether it is your first, second or third wedding… the focal point is
still the wedding dress. Many second-time brides choose a simpler, more elegant
or sophisticated wedding dress. Many second time brides will choose a floor
length or cocktail length dress in white, off-white or a pretty pastel. Many
choose a dress that they may wear again, such as a cocktail length dress or a
dressy, feminine looking suit.
Many "etiquette experts" advise
second-time brides to not wear a veil or a long train for their second wedding.
DON'T LISTEN to them! This is your day - wear what YOU want to wear! Maybe you
had a very small first wedding and now you want to go all out! Wear what makes
you feel beautiful!
When it comes to bridesmaids, many second time
brides choose to have a smaller wedding party with again, simpler style of
bridesmaids dresses.
Children in Weddings -
If
you or your fiancé have children from previous marriages, include them as much
as possible in your wedding plans!
Children can be flower girls, ring bearers,
bridesmaids, ushers, junior attendants or even the best man or maid of honor.
Children can do special readings, sing a song or play an instrument to be part
of the ceremony. Wedding vows can also be written to include children.
Also See:
Should I Register for Gifts? -
YES!
You may feel uncomfortable that friends and family gave you gifts at your
previous wedding. There is no getting around that! People will want to give you
a gift for your wedding. By registering, you help yourself by getting gifts that
you want and you also help your guests in choosing gifts for you too.
When selecting items for your registry… you may
already have all the china and kitchen items that you need, so try registering
for other items such as sporting equipment (his and her roller blades?), camping
gear or a new computer.
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