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"Will you marry me?"
You will never forget the moment you asked the woman you love to become your
wife. The proposal took weeks, maybe even months to plan. In the end, even you
were surprised by how romantic you could be. It was a wonderful moment. Now, the
planning for the wedding is in full force and your future wife is stressed out,
your families are arguing about silly details, and you're trying to do anything
just to keep your fiancee sane!
In this hectic time of planning for the wedding, romance may be the last
thing on your mind. You may be just trying to survive until the Big Day (and
maybe even wondering what you've gotten yourself into. Elopement is looking
better each day, right?) However, now is not the time to neglect your wife-to-be
and romance in your relationship. If anything, now is the time to really pamper
her!
A Message A Day
One thing that I did for my
fiancée, Jennica, to alleviate stress and remind
her of my feelings for her was to create a message-a-day pad. At the beginning
of our engagement, I took a couple post it note pads and dated each one,
counting down until our marriage. On each day I wrote a little note of love,
something to make her feel cherished even when tensions are running high. She
has been reading one each day and keeping a book of them. I know she appreciates
this small reminder of my feelings for her.
Picture It
Take lots of pictures during your engagement and create a scrapbook for your
wife-to-be. She is probably so busy right now that she can't take pictures of
this process. These are the kinds of pictures wedding photographers don't take
-- the ring bearer being fitted for his tuxedo, your fiancee falling asleep on
the couch surrounded by Bride magazines.
I know that most guys don't like creating scrapbooks - I certainly don't!
That is one of the reasons it will be so meaningful to your fiancee. Doing
something you wouldn't normally shows her how much you care.
Shhhh!
Ban wedding talk a couple of days each month during the engagement. One thing
we are tired of is discussing the wedding with everyone that we know. The most
common question we hear now is "Do you have everything done for the
wedding?" (And generally it is the same people asking us, over and over
again!)
Take some time out and take your future wife out for a date and talk about
everything but the wedding. The time out will be appreciated by both of you.
Remember that beyond your wedding lies your marriage. One lasts for a day,
the other a lifetime. Keeping romance throughout your engagement will help you
and your wife-to-be to survive the stress and strengthen your love for a
lifetime.
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